A. There are basically two types of people who use my
services. The first type are those who cannot have a traditional
wedding because of incarceration, hospitalization, or other problems
that make attendance at a church difficult. The second type are
those who realize that an expensive wedding can cause financial
problems that lead to an expensive divorce. With the average
wedding now costing over $25,000, some couples are taking the practical
step of saving money by having a small wedding at a park, at the home
friend, or at some other rent-free location. (see www.costofwedding.com
for sample wedding costs).
Are the weddings you perform legal?
Absolutely. So long as you get a valid
marriage license from the county, I can perform the solemnization
service and record the license.
Must I be a member of your church?
No. Paul taught that there is only one Church (I Cor. 1:12 &
10:17). My small
congregation is simply a branch of the one Church, and I have no desire
to pull members from other branches of the church.
Q. What city are you in?
Bakersfield, but I go to most places in Kern
County and can travel anywhere in California.
Q. How much do you charge?
It depends on where the wedding is to be performed
and how long you want the service to be. Generally, weddings at
low security level jails, such as Lerdo Male Minimum, start at $200.
Q. Do you do gay marriages?
No. Sorry, I only do marriages that are legal in California.
Do you take credit cards?
Yes. Visa, Mastercard, Discover, and
Q. How long does the service last?
It depends on the vows you want. You can
write your own vows or use some of the standard vows. I
specialize in short ceremonies for people with special needs. If
you want a long, fancy ceremony, you probably want someone else.
Q. Do you do weddings in odd places
like in a hot air
balloon, at the races, at a sporting event, in an airplane, or
Q. Do you do skydive weddings?
No, but you can get married in the plane and then
jump out together. I don't jump.
Q. Can you do languages other than
I can do a short service in American Sign
Language. I have Spanish, Russian, and Polish interpreters
readily available. Other than that, you can bring your own
Q. My fiancé is only 17; can
the wedding with
Yes, but only if you have obtained a valid license
(which requires a court order in California).
Q. Do you do nude weddings?
You don't really want to see me naked.
Why would anyone want to be married in jail?
A. Most people don't want to be married while they
are in jail because most people don't want to be in jail in the first
place, but there are reasons to have a jail wedding. Please,
consider these examples:
and Dave lived together for several years before Dave got picked up and
sent to prison. He's in a prison that allows two day family
visits (often called conjugal visits), but Cindy is not allowed such
visits because she is not legally married to Dave.
and Juan were arrested together on drug offenses. Juan was
release from prison early, but Mary is still on the inside. When
Mary goes to her parole interview, she learns that if she is found with
Juan on the outside it will be a violation of her parole to associate
with a known drug offender who is not her spouse.
and Jake are in love and they just want to get married even though Jake
is in prison.
Why would anyone want to be married in a hospital?
Does anyone really want to be in a hospital in the
first place? Please, consider these examples of hospitalized
people who want to be married:
found herself in the hospital about to give birth to Mike's baby.
had planned to get married, but the wedding didn't come off before the
baby started to come out. They want the baby's birth certificate
to show that mom and dad were married.
had been in the hospital for several weeks and her insurance was
running out. Kevin had insurance through his employer that would
cover Estella once they were married.
had terminal cancer and knew she was going to die soon. She
wanted Chet, her long time love, to inherit everything she owned, but
she didn't want to bother him with the burden of probate, so they
decided to marry.